Destructive Thoughts As A Plus-Size Woman And Self Love

Hi everyone.

I think that it's important to love yourself no matter what shape or size you are.
My journey of self love is still ongoing and some days it's really difficult for me to accept myself and how body is. I'm trying to break out of social media and societys conditioning of looking "perfect" (whatever that is)

Recently I read a article on about 11 most destructive thoughts every plus-size girl has.

I found myself nodding and agreeing to 3 particular thoughts in the article which I wanted to share my thoughts on.
5. "I hope no one is grossed out by me in this tank top"

Summer is here and I don't particularly like wearing tank tops in public because I do not like my upper arms because I have Keratosis pilaris. I find it difficult to not wear a cardigan or a shrug to cover them. I have been taking it slowly by wearing off the shoulder dresses which only cover the very tops of my arms. My goal is not to wear any cardigans when the weather is nice. If you are following me on Twitter then you will know that recently I wore a tank top without a cardigan when it was 28 degrees outside at the weekend. Progress :)
9. "I will wait until i go home and eat. I don't want anyone to think that I eat alot"

I don't enjoy eating infront of people and if I chose to do so it's because I feel comfortable with the people who I am with. When I started going to bloggers events the end of last year I didn't eat because I was scared of being judged for it. But when I went to the Lush Bloggers Event Nottingham  last month. I had made so much progress as I ate a doughnut infront of everybody and it tasted delicious. Food offered at parties or events are meant to be enjoyed. I don't want to miss out just because of the insecurites in my mind. 

10. "I Feel Fat"
Fat isn't a feeling but it's a thought in your mind. A negative voice which tries to disrupt my happiness and make me feel unworthy. What helps is finding the trigger of when I feel fat and  use positive affirmations to drown out the negative voice.

How I Overcome My Body Issues
What really helps me personally to overcome my body issues is......
  •  Knowing that my body loves me no matter what. My body is always loving me and keeping me alive. It protects and heals me 24/7. 
  • Throwing out scales. I haven't got on a pair of scales in about 4 years. It's the best thing I've ever done. Numbers do not define my value as a person
  • Picking one thing which you like about yourself everyday
  • Forget the diet. Diets do not work for me so why should I keep trying at something which makes me feel miserable and results in me eating more.
  • Using positive affirmations such as "I am worthy" "I am beautiful" "I love my body and it loves me"
  • Accepting my body no matter what weight it is. Numbers on the scales do not define me.
Let me know in the comments below if you have had any self destructive thoughts with your body and how you overcome them. 

Bunny Hugs,




  1. Hayley I bloody love this post! I think one of my best tips when I started my own body positive journey was to fill my social media with people who are like minded. Michelle Elman (scarred not scared if you don't follow her you should) said something in one of her recent YouTube videos which was when people say they feel fat she always replays fat is not a feeling and it's sooo true

    1. Thank you Charlotte :) I will definetely look up Mitchelle Elman. I'm in the progress of re-evaluating who I follow because I think that it does play a big role in how you feel about yourself I need some more body positivity YouTubers and bloggers in my life :)


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